Qualities of the Ideal Wife
In the Vedic social system, the stability of family life and the spiritual progress of society depend heavily on the character of women. Śrīla Prabhupāda describes the "ideal wife" not as a subordinate, but as a "better half" who fully shares in her husband's life. The standard for an ideal wife is absolute chastity and the willingness to stand by her husband in all conditions—prosperity or poverty, happiness or distress. This dedication creates a harmonious relationship comparable to that of Lakṣmī and Nārāyaṇa.
Accepting All Circumstances
The primary test of an ideal wife is her steadfastness. Śrīla Prabhupāda explains that a wife's faithfulness is proved when she accepts her husband's difficulties as her own. She does not seek separation when her husband's financial or social status declines; rather, she abides by him. This quality makes her a true companion.
- Ideal wife must be prepared to accept any circumstances of the husband. Not that when the husband is rich the wife is faithful... Wife means better half. She must abide.
- This is ideal wife. She (Sita) could have refused... No. This is ideal wife. She must be prepared to accept any circumstances of the husband.
The Lakṣmī-Nārāyaṇa Standard
The relationship between husband and wife is meant to mirror the divine couple, Lakṣmī and Nārāyaṇa. In this dynamic, the husband acts as an ideal servant of the Supreme Lord, and the wife acts as the goddess of fortune, assisting him. When this spiritual hierarchy is maintained, the home becomes a sanctuary, and both partners advance toward the ultimate goal.
- A man should be an ideal servant of the Lord, and a woman should be an ideal wife like the goddess of fortune. Then both husband and wife will be so faithful and strong that by acting together they go back to Godhead, without a doubt.
- An ideal husband and wife are generally called Laksmi-Narayana to compare them to the Lord and the goddess of fortune.
- She (Mother Laksmiji) is an ideal wife because she takes care of Lord Narayana in every detail.
Exemplary Figures in History
Vedic history is replete with examples of ideal wives who set the standard for civilization. Sītā Devī is the foremost example, having renounced royal comfort to accompany Lord Rāma into the forest. Similarly, Gāndhārī is celebrated as an ascetic wife (tapasvinī) who voluntarily accepted blindness to share the fate of her husband, Dhṛtarāṣṭra. Devahūti serves as another prime example of a sādhvī (chaste woman) who served the sage Kardama Muni with great affection.
- As Lord Ramacandra is the ideal husband (eka-patni-vrata), mother Sita is the ideal wife. Such a combination makes family life very happy.
- Saubalini, or Gandhari... was ideal as a wife devoted to her husband. The Vedic civilization especially prepares chaste and devoted wives.
- There are many good qualities in Mahabharata about Gandhari. Therefore she is described here as tapasvini... Very chaste, faithful wife. Ideal wife.
- She (Devahuti) served him (Kardama Muni) with great love and affection... Therefore, she is designated here as sadhvi, which means "a chaste, faithful wife."
Conclusion
The ideal wife is the backbone of a spiritual family. By following the examples of great souls like Sītā and Gāndhārī, a woman elevates not only herself but her entire family. When a wife is dedicated to her husband's service, and the husband is dedicated to the Lord's service, the home becomes a place of liberation, free from the anxieties of material existence.
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